DESIRES, EXPECTATIONS AND NEEDS

It is important to investigate and explore the differences between our Desires, Expectations and Needs in order to gain understanding re their differences in our lives.

                                    I. Desires
A desire is a want or preference about something you would like to have or receive. What are you longing for in your relationship? What are you longing for personally? What direction are your desires taking you?

We all sit with unfulfilled desires therefore it is extremely important that we share our desires in relationships with others as we grow and move in new directions.

We are made for relationship and they can bring such joy, fun, happiness and contentment if we are wise.
 

II. Expectations

Expectations are hopes and beliefs that are focused on the future, and may or may not be realistic. Expectations are not always = to reality. So a Reality Check is crucial to avoid disappointment.





H - Have
O - only
P - positive
E - expectations

Here below are ‘Eight Expectations for Living’ that will always align with reality. Educators helping students achieve excellence, guide them in adhering to the following expectations:

We will value one another as unique and special individuals.

We will not laugh at or make fun of a person's mistakes nor use sarcasm or putdowns.

We will use good manners, saying "please," "thank you," and "excuse me" and allow others to go first.

We will cheer each other to success. 

We will help one another whenever possible.

We will recognize every effort and applaud it.

We will encourage each other to do our best.

We will practice virtuous living.

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We can all move forward in relationships with these 8 positives!

                                III. Needs
A need is something that is necessary for healthy relating and living. Do you know what is essential for you to have a healthy relationship (i.e. fidelity, kindness, lack of drug or alcohol addiction, etc.)? What are your deal breakers or non-negotiables?




We all need:
A. To be heard
B. To be valued
C. To be understood
D. To be safe

An unmet need can lead to despair and entrapment, be careful to whom you entrust yourself.

Reality Check
- we must acknowledge that no one is perfect.

- what are we longing for?
- what do we need and what are deal breakers.

Our relationships should run more smoothly if we take these things into consideration.